Archive - 2007

November 6th

Getting Help

It is day six of National Novel Writing Month, (NaNoWriMo). If I write 1,667 words a day, which will put me at 50,000 words by the end of the month, I need to be break 10,000 words today. In reality, I’m closing in on 17,000 words, so I’m in pretty good shape.

My biggest concerns are running out of storyline before I hit the 50,000 mark, as well as how compelling and realistic the story is. So, I’ve started casually asking around for help. My wife has read everything I’ve written so far and tells me it is compelling. She has offered help in areas that I’m not well versed in, such as describing the preparations for a date that a twenty-year-old woman might do. She also gave me the idea for a small scene that I’ve added which I think works quite nicely, and I thank her for that.

One of the heroes in my story reluctantly gets dragged to a therapist. I’m on a mailing list of group psychotherapists, so I sent a request to the list, asking if any of them would be interested in reading my story and offering comments about the story, and especially about the one therapy scene that I’ve written so far.

I received a few replies. The readers found the story compelling and the therapist plausible. I’m starting to dig deeper, because I hope to introduce some interesting ethical issues and would love to add real depth to the therapy sessions.

Today, I received one email that made me stop and think. The writer said, “I got to the therapist, and had to stop reading, because I was shook up by the quick decision of dismissal by the Doc.” It was an incredibly valuable comment.

Let me give you the context. A seventeen-year-old boy has been hanging out in Second Life. Something bad has happened there. Depending on your perspective, he enabled or permitted this bad thing to happen. There are other people who are particularly upset about this and are threatening the boy. The boy is scared. He reluctantly talks about this with a therapist and the therapist doesn’t take this as seriously as he ought to.

On the one hand, I want my characters to be as realistic as possible. Is the therapist’s too quick dismissal of the danger the boy is in unrealistic? Would that happen in real life? Does it reflect a real concern about people dismissing online events as not being all that important?

As I pondered these questions, it struck me that this is really an important theme in the book, not only concerning the therapist, but also concerning everyone. Are some people taking events in Second Life too seriously? Are some people not taking events in Second Life seriously enough? We will have to see how the novel turns out.

Until that time, I thank the folks who have read portions of my first write through and offered such helpful comments. If you are writing a novel this month, how are you doing research for your novel? Who are you asking for help? What sort of help are you asking for? How are you asking for it? Is it working?

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November 5th

For All the Saints

Yesterday, we went to church. The first reading of the day was from Ecclesiasticus. It is that wonderful section that begins, “Let us now sing the praises of famous men.” It talks about the great variety of famous men, leaders, musicians, writers, and others of home there is no memory. It is a great reading for the Sunday after All Saints Day; a reminder that we are all in this together, the rich and the forgotten.

It is also provided the title for James Agee and Walker Evans monumental book, “Let Us Now Praise Famous Men”. That book was written about poverty in the south during the Great Depression. Now, over seventy years later, we have others to now praise famous men.

John Edwards, as part of his “American Heroes Week” spent last Saturday with a bunch of supporters helping rebuild home in New Orleans. We still have poverty in our country, and Hurricane Katrina briefly blew away the façade that had been hiding it.

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November 4th

Touched

Today, I received a touching email from a dear friend who seems to have found her voice online and that voice rang through loud and clear. She pointed me to an article about Voyeurism and exhibitionism in YouTube, Facebook, and Apartments in New York City.

In particular, she highlighted the quote from Sherry Turkle,

We are no longer able to distinguish when we are together and nurtured and when we are alone and isolated. I can be in intimate contact with 300 people on e-mail, but when I look up from my computer I feel bereft. I haven’t heard a voice, touched a hand, for hours or days. I think people are no longer certain where the self resides.

In think my opening sentence captures a key part of my response. Can Sherry Turkle really be in intimate contact with 300 people and feel bereft? If so, I would have to question her definition of intimacy. No, if we are truly in intimate contact with people, whether it be face to face or online, we hear the voice of the person we are speaking with. We are touched by them.

Yet the issue of where the self resides, now that is the interesting question. It isn’t a new question, brought to us by our computer-mediated communications. It is an age-old question. Perhaps, part of where the self resides is in honest and authentic communications, which may or may not happen when our ear hears a voice, or hand feels a touch. Yet it seems to happen, at least based on my experiences, even online, which we hear the authentic voice of a fellow human being in their emails, and are touched by it.

When you write emails, blog entries or IMs, are you seeking to have your voice heard? To touch the people around you? Or, is our communication more like that of Benjamin and Mrs. Robinson in The Graduate. When asked about what happened, Benjamin explains, “What happened between Mrs. Robinson and me was nothing. It didn't mean anything. We might just as well have been shaking hands.”

So, no, Ms. Turkle, it isn’t the touch of hands that matters, it is the touching of souls, and to borrow a line from Mr. Robinson, “You’ll forgive me if I don’t shake your hand”

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Personal Updates: Our seven year anniversery

Seven years ago, Kim and I were married in a small Episcopal Church in Stamford, CT. The reception took place at the Stamford Yacht Club. It was a wonderful day, and it has been a wonderful, yet at times, trying, seven years. Depending on who you ask, this is our copper or wool anniversary, but given our finances, we aren’t doing anything special this year, except for the duck which Kim will cook today. Duck is one of those special meals that we have.

The novel that I’m writing for National Novel Writing Month, (NaNoWriMo) is going very well. This morning, I broke the 10,000 word mark. I’m spending time visiting various online NaNoWriMo groups. Through this I found a blog post, Word count: 3337 by PurpleCar. In it, she wrote, “If you dread writing it, readers will dread reading it.” A wise word of warning. On the other hand, I can’t stop writing my novel, I can’t put it down. My biggest concern is that it will end too soon, that I’ll run out of story line. I’m itching to get to the really meaty part of the story. If PurpleCar’s comments bear up, hopefully, my readers won’t be able to put down my novel, will want to get to the meaty part of the story, and will be hoping it won’t end too soon.

As I perused the various communities, I stumbled across another interesting site, Gifted Mind. It has links to articles like Discovering the Gifted Ex-Child. It made me think of “finding your inner gifted child”.

So, today, I will write more. We will go to church. We will eat duck. Hopefully, it will be an idyllic New England autumn day.

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November 3rd

Avery Update: On Why Schools Exist

This evening, I received an email containing the brief filed in the United States Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit for the case of Lauren Doninger, P.P.A. as Guardian and Next Friend of Avery Doninger, a minor, Appellant v. Karissa Niehoff and Paula Schwartz, et al., Appellees.

If you are new to this site, I would encourage you to read my coverage in the Connecticut section of this blog. For those of you who like reading briefs, I would encourage you to read the brief filed by Martin Margulies and Daniel J. Krisch of the Center for First Amendment Rights as well as the brief filed by Jon L. Schoenhorn who will be arguing the case at the Second Circuit.

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