Archive - 2010

September 4th

Rocky, Barley, Prada and The Fosters

Oh very young
What will you leave us this time
You're only dancing on this earth for a short while
...
And though you want to last forever
You know you never will
And the goodbye makes the journey harder still

Four and a half years ago, we said good bye to my yellow lab. He had lived a wonderful long life, and we were very sad to see him go. Earlier this summer, we said good bye to Barley. Barley had been Kim's chocolate lab for longer than I knew Kim and for several years longer than Fiona had been our daughter. It was a summer of grieving.

Fiona, who is very interested in dog rescuing wanted to adopt a new dog as soon as possible, but Kim wanted to wait a little while, to get past a little bit of her grief, as well as to not have a dog to worry about during our summer travels.

Well, it is Labor Day weekend. Fiona is back and school and we are settled into the fall schedule. It is a good time to start looking for a new dog. Should we get another lab? Larger dogs often have shorter lives than smaller dogs, and it is so hard to say goodbye. Labs are great dogs, and it would be wonderful to get a new lab. Kim's father and brother have dog allergies. They both have Golden Doodles. Getting some sort of poodle mix might be a good solution. It would be great to get a pit bull. Despite the bad press they get, they are some of the sweetest dogs I've ever met when they are properly raised. Unfortunately, we currently rent a house and raising a pit bull isn't an option right now.

Yet there is another option that I have been thinking a lot about, fostering a dog. Typically, when a dog gets rescued, she gets taken to a shelter. While this sure beats being out on the street or being put to sleep, shelters can be hard on dogs. They really need companions to care for them. So, various rescues find people to foster dogs for them. The dog lives with a family and is lovingly cared for. These dogs end up well socialized, nicely groomed, and are the sort of dogs that have a much greater chance of finding a forever home.

The problem with fostering, especially for people like Kim and Fiona, is that fosterers often fall in love with the dogs they are fostering. Some fosterers end up having several dogs that they have problems parting with. As one rescuer said, there is a fine line between fostering several dogs and hoarding. It has been so hard to say good bye to Rocky and Barley that the idea of fostering seemed too difficult to my wife.

Yet recently, I read that the Sadie Mae Foundation has lost the use of its kennel in Bolton. While they try to find new space, they need to find fosterers. I've contacted the Sadie Mae Foundation and offered my services.

Then, I saw a message on Facebook about Prada, Prada is an absolutely gorgeous Chocolate Labrador Retriever Weimaraner mix. She needed a short term foster in Connecticut, so I asked Kim and we volunteered. Kim was quite excited and mentioned it to Fiona as well as to her parents. Everyone was quite excited and fell in love with Prada just from the description and photo. Things were set up for us to pick up Prada on Saturday morning and keep her until she gets adopted.

Then, late last night, I got a message that Prada had been adopted and would be picked up Saturday morning. Our fostering services were not needed for Prada. Rocky and Barley were both in our lives for fourteen years and it was hard to say good bye to them. Prada was only in our thoughts for fourteen hours and it was hard to say good bye to her as well.

This morning, Fiona and Kim have been looking at the various dogs available for adoption at Big Fluffy Dogs. They have immediately fallen in love with half a dozen of the dogs. Any of them would be great additions to our family.

However, I am still hoping we will foster dogs. We can help more dogs that way. We can experience a wider variety of dogs in our house. Yes, it will be hard saying good bye more often, but I believe it is well worth it. In addition, fosterers who fail at fostering and want to keep a dog often get first dibs with the rescues they are fostering dogs for.

So, as of this morning, it is unclear if we will foster or adopt. It is unclear the breed or age of dog that will join our family, or when it will happen. What is clear is that we will find some dog that needs rescuing that will fit with our family as soon as possible.

If you are considering adding a dog to your family, you should really consider fostering. I could be a wonderful experience.

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September 3rd

#ff @khynes2000 @shesosocial @ctnewsjunkie

It's my birthday! I went out to lunch with my boss and am having dinner with family and friends. Well, sort of. You see, about ten years ago, I participated in a strange mystical ceremony where I became 'one flesh' with the person I loved.

Today, it is Kim's birthday. Through the mystical ceremony, I am one flesh with her, so to that extent, it is also my birthday. I was with Kim, as part of being one flesh, as she had dinner with her boss. We will be one flesh as she eats dinner with our family and friends this evening.

Whenever she is joyful, it is no longer just she who is joyful, it is both of us. The same applies to sadness and sickness. Today, we also mourn the death of Kim's mother, who left this world eleven years ago today, when Kim and I were having dinner with Kim's father, brother and sister-in-law.

Over the past couple of years, I've had a horrible time fighting lyme disease. While a doctor might test my blood and find no traces of lyme disease in me, being of one flesh with Kim, I have lyme disease. We have experienced the disease in different ways, just as the nose and the stomach may experience different aspects of the flu, but we have fought this together.

In a similar fashion, a couple years ago, Kim and I developed a shellfish allergy. We first noticed it when I prepared shrimp for her for mother's day. It is disappointing that I cannot eat shrimp or lobster any more. Yet in fact, really, I can. It is just that my other digestive system, Kim's, needs to eat the lobster, and not I.

Being Friday, I am putting this up as a Follow Friday post. If you follow me on Twitter, you should follow @khynes2000 as well.

Not only is today Kim's (and by extension, my) birthday. It also sees the celebration of anniversaries of some friends. @ctnewsjunkie and her husband celebrated their third wedding anniversary this week. Tomorrow, @SheSoSocial and her husband are celebrating their fifth wedding anniversary.

I hope their relationships may flourish the way Kim and mine has.

A final thought: I had a philosophy professor that commented, "It isn't love that keeps marriage together, it is marriage that keeps love together." Kim and I have had some pretty rough times over the past decade. I'm sure we will have plenty more. If we were relying on the first flush of love to keep our marriage together, things probably would have been more difficult when we went through hard times. Yet it is birthdays and anniversaries, it is marriage, that is our opportunities to be reminded of and rekindle those early days of mad love.

Happy Birthday, Kim.

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Who's on the Ballot in Connecticut?

With two months until the General Election in Connecticut, and most of the filing deadlines passed, the final slate of candidates is shaping up and it seems like a good time to look at the process of getting on the ballot in Connecticut. The recent court decision in Stamford of James Caterbone v. Susan Bysiewicz provides all the more reason to look at this.

Let's start off by taking a general look at the process. Connecticut election law provides a few different ways that candidates can get on the ballot. The first is to become the candidate of a major party. Currently, Connecticut has two major parties, the Democrats and the Republicans. To be a major party, the party's candidate for Governor in the most recent regular gubernatorial election must have received at least 20% of the vote. The other way to be a major party is to have at least 20% of the people who have registered as belonging to any party register with the party.

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September 2nd

Beating The Heat with the BRSPTO Ice Cream Social

Wednesday evening, the Beecher Road School Parent Teacher Organization held its annual back to school Ice Cream Social. As with other years, it was a well attended event. Sen. Joe Crisco and State Rep. Themis Klarides were both on hand to help PTO members, Superintendent Guy Stella, and members of the staff serve ice cream to students, parents and community members.

Parents sat in lawn chairs and compared notes of summer vacations and hopes for the coming school year as children ran around with their friends or danced to the music of a DJ.

Wednesday was a particularly hot day and many enjoyed the cold ice cream. Others talked about the effect of the heat on education. The Horace Porter School in Columbia, CT closed early because of the heat on Wednesday and the Laurel School in Bloomfield, CT is closing early today because of the heat. While there are currently no plans to close Beecher Road School early because of the heat, such a move would create complications with bus routes.

Indoor air quality is an important issue at schools that is too often overlooked. The EPA has an IAQ Tools for Schools Program and Connecticut has An Act Concerning Indoor Air Quality in Schools.

Beecher Road School appears to be adequately handling the current heat wave. While there have been scattered reports of students heading to the nurse's office because of the heat, it has not been at such a level that the administration has needed to take action, and so far, there is only one report of a class having to be moved because of excessive heat.

Indoor air quality has a significant impact on education which needs to be carefully considered at Beecher Road School. Events like the BRSPTO Ice Cream Social provide an important opportunity for members of the community to gather for a fun social event, as well as to share concerns about what is best for long term education in our town.

(Cross posted in the Woodbridge Citizen.)

September 1st

Going Meta - Student Speech, Education, Sharks, Lady Gaga, Richard Blumenthal, Linda McMahon and Colin McEnroe

Recently I saw a cartoon that read "Shcools are fer preyin, not fer ejucashun". While the focus of the cartoon was on how conservative Christians are affecting school boards, it actually reflects a much larger issue. What is the purpose of public education in twenty first century America?

Is it to convey information? To teach students the proper respect for authority? Is it to prepare students to be good future employees? What role does teaching critical thinking play? What if this critical thinking encourages students to challenge authority? Where does media education fit in? How does it relate to the future of journalism? Where does civics fit? How does all of this relate to having a properly functioning democracy?

A few different articles have crossed my desk that tie into all of this, so I am going to go all meta for a moment and look at these articles, as well as the stories beneath the stories.

The first message I want to look at is about a Free Webinar for Board of Education members. It starts off with:

What would you do if the Assistant Principal of your high school threatened to quit if something is not done about a vulgar parody of him on MySpace? The parody portrays him as a violent pedophile and lists the names of his family and his address. Should your school board launch an investigation? If the perpetrator is a student, can you impose discipline?School districts across the country are being asked to address student misbehavior in the electronic world – both at school and away from school. When formulating an action plan or policy to address cyber-misbehavior, you need to consider state bullying laws, harassment liability, constitutional limitations on policy and action, and when law enforcement should be involved.

What I find strikingly missing is what I like to call the 'pedagogical imperative'. To me, it sounds like a wonderful teaching moment which the Assistant Principal completely missed. It comes back to the underlying purpose of public education in twenty first century America. If the purpose is to teach students to respect, and not question authority, then the questions of how to reply may need to be more focused on legal aspects. However, if the purpose of education is to teach critical thinking, effective communications and other skills, then a more creative response is called for. If I were in charge at the school in question, I would probably have told the Assistant Principal, you can't quit, you're fired.

The message went on to say that the webinar "will discuss what the school district did in the above situation and how the court ruled in J.S. v. Blue Mountain School District and Layshock v. Hermitage School District."

The ACLU has a webpage up about LAYSHOCK V. HERMITAGE SCHOOL DISTRICT which includes a link to a PDF of the offending website. The criticism of the Assistant Principal? That his biggest weakness and his biggest fears were students laughing at him. His reactions to the website appear to substantiate the allegations of the website. While I imagine the webinar is going to be very interesting and cover a lot of very important legal issues, I would love to see a webinar on more creative approaches to these issues.

Related to this is an email I received from a mailing list addressing the future of journalism. It pointed to Esther Wojcicki's article Journalism: English for the 21st Century.

Bill Densmore, who forwarded the article to the list highlighted several important paragraphs. The first two that he cited tie back very much to the Layshock case and many other cases about students rights.

"Most schools do not allow their students access to an uncensored Web; this is a trait we usually ascribe to China and rarely acknowledge about ourselves."

"The Hazelwood decision is now two decades old. An entire generation has lived its entire academic life—and is now moving into the professional ranks—under Hazelwood’s influence. Far too many of our future journalists, citizens and leaders unquestioningly accept that school administrators—government officials—should have the authority to dictate what they read, write and talk about. What this means for the future of press freedom in America remains unknown …"

The final paragraph that he quoted puts it very nicely into context,

"America is a nation that thrives on independence and on the entrepreneurial spirit. Yet our schools’ curricula do just the opposite by driving teachers to teach to the test and kids to be effective multiple choice test takers. Let’s offer our kids at least one opportunity in school each day in which they truly act with an independence of mind and with freedom to speak to the issues in their lives. That course should be journalism."

Other paragraphs went into details about what this might look like:

"The easiest way to pass on the skills and purpose of journalism is to have an online program, which is, after all, the future"

"Today’s journalism curriculum can revolutionize English education by making the writing curriculum relevant and exciting. In the process, it can also train an entire generation of citizens—many of whom will be doing what journalists do today—to be responsible contributing members of the digital society."

"Journalism also teaches kids how to collaborate both online and offline and how to work effectively with their peers both as leaders and as participants. These are skills employers are seeking in prospective employees."

It seems like an appropriate response to the Layshock case, instead of giving him a 10-day, out-of-school suspension, ordering him to finish high school in the Alternative Education Program and forbidding him from attending his own graduation in the spring, the school might have found that his education was incomplete and required him to take a course in journalism, similar to what Ms. Wojcicki describes. Such a course would explore the rights and responsibilities of the press in our society, including legal issues, such as defamation as well as how to voice criticisms more effectively. This reflects some of the ideas that I've presented in the past about the Avery Doninger case here in Connecticut.

Which takes me to the final message I want to explore. Today, Colin McEnroe wrote this on my Facebook page:

Aldon, I'm headed to Truro Sunday, sharks and hurricanes permitting.
You might find it interesting to listen and/or call in tomorrow as we discuss this:
Traffic Problems | American Journalism Review

When I read the title, I was tempted to respond back that we ran into very little traffic either going to or coming from Cape Cod. Yet that isn't what the article is about. Instead it is about:

How the drive to attract massive numbers of visitors to their Web sites (and the advertisers that might follow them) is having a profound effect on news judgment at traditional news organizations.

The article explores what is happening to journalism today:

High-minded headlines and stories about foreign wars, the federal deficit or environmental despoilage might have paid the bills in the age of Murrow and Cronkite, but they only go so far these days. Shark videos and "naked Lady Gaga" headlines get major play on "serious" news sites for an obvious and no longer terribly shocking reason: They draw traffic.

I'm very interested in the stories behind the shark and Lady Gaga stories. Why are we seeing an increase in shark sighting stories? Is it the titillating factor? Are there more shark sightings? Is it because we are better at sighting sharks, or shark populations are changing? If shark populations are changing, is it because of an increase in the seal population? Is it because of climate change? Are their other factors? And what about Lady Gaga? Is Lady Gaga a 'brand'? How do we understand personal brands in the age of social media? Is what she is doing 'art'? How do we understand 'art'? What is the relationship between Lady Gaga and Andy Warhol? What are the implications of personality in our political process, as we look at U.S. Senate candidate who is self-funding with millions of dollars obtained through entertainment based on sex and violence? To tie together Sharks, Lady Gaga, and Connecticut Politics, is Richard Blumenthal a shark and Linda McMahon Lady Gaga?

I've always thought that good journalism is a careful mix between what people want to know and what people need to know. Great journalism is when a writer takes what people want to know and leads them to what they need to know. Yet this brings us back to education, and Ms. Wojcicki's article. We need better education so that people will recognize and be drawn to great journalism, and we need better education so that students like Justin Layshock can become great journalists, instead of relying simply on the titillating without delving deeper into underlying issues. All of this, will hopefully lead to a better informed and more involved electorate.

So, what will Colin cover on his show tomorrow? Tune in and find out.

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