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Music Monday - Jill Cagney, The Ultimate Mommy Bloggers’ Folk Musician

Jill Cagney is the ultimate Mommy Bloggers’ Folk Musician. I came across her music as I was reviewing the Sonic Bids Submissions to the Orient Lodge Music Review. In terms of music, hers was not my favorite. It was not the most polished best written material out there, but it had a feeling of edgy authenticity that could not, and should not be overlooked.

I guess this is part of the reason I think of Ms. Cagney as the ultimate Mommy Bloggers’ Folk Musician. There are many Mommy Bloggers that I love to read on a regular basis that are also not the most polished best written material out there, but also have a feeling of edgy authenticity that needs to be paid attention to.

Beyond this, Ms. Cagney describes herself not only as a musician, but also as a “social worker, mother, writer, and surprisingly good pool player!” I tend to think that any good mother, or sufficiently involved father is likely to feel some kinship with Ms. Cagney. While we might not be professional social workers, once our kids get to the point of play dates, Queen Bees, and first crushes, we end up doing a little bit of social work as part of our parenting, and if we write authentically about what is going on in our lives, we just might echo a little bit of Ms. Cagney’s voice.

Anyone with kids is likely to recognize themselves saying words like Ms. Cagney in her song Kids:

Trying to keep up with you is like trying to run a marathon in a high heeled shoe
It's like trying to catch a dragonfly with a fishing pole
What goes on in your head I just don't know

Those of us who spend a lot of time online are also likely to find some of the words in her song “Facebook” about fifteen hundred forty-three friends and photoshopping ones overbite sound very close to home. You can become a fan of her on Facebook.

On Facebook, or Jill Cagney’s website you can find out that she will be playing at the City Ale House in Danbury, CT on June 11th and then at Rockin Joes in Westfield, NJ on June 17th. Later in the year, she will be appearing at Indiegrrl Conference and Festival in Knoxville.

So, if you like edgy authenticity, take a moment to check out some of Jill Cagney’s music.

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High Speed Social Fiber

It was late when I got home. I had a bunch of pictures to upload for my blog post and a couple hundred new unread emails. When I did get a chance to check some of my other social media, I saw this message on Twitter

jcnork - @ahynes1 can u go? -New Haven Mayor Destefano joins business & community leaders in promoting #GoogleHaven 100 Campaign http://bit.ly/crRR6o

Twitter can be terse and cryptic if you don’t have the context, but in this case, I know what my friend Jack was talking about. He, and a bunch of other friends have been working on a project to get Google to select New Haven as a location to roll out their gigabit Internet. I knew it would be a busy day, but that it would also be an event that I would want to be at.

The press conference was taking place at Fair Haven Furniture, 72 Blatchley Avenue. Fairhaven, with its lovely views of the Pearl Harbor Memorial Bridge, more commonly known as the Q bridge crossing the mouth of the Quinnipiac river, and the looming oil tanks of the Port of New Haven, has never been high on my list of New Haven tourist attractions. As I passed companies like Independent Pipe and Supply, Lynn Ladder and Scaffolding, and New Haven Awning, I wondered what sort of place Fair Haven Furniture would be like. Would it be a struggling furniture manufacturer, trying to hold on to the glories of yesterday when there were many more manufacturing companies in New Haven? Would it be one of those ‘to the trade’ type stores selling credenzas and other office furniture? Maybe it would be a new citizen to our country, trying to make a go of it here in America selling painted cribs imported from China at a really low price.

Since the mayor was there, as well as several news outlets, it was hard to find a good parking place, so I parked in front of a closed gate next to an abandoned building and hoped I wouldn’t get towed. I walked around the corner and found the door leading to Fair Haven Furniture. I was totally unprepared for what I found inside. (If I had of had time to look at the website ahead of time, I probably wouldn’t have been surprised). Fair Haven Furniture is a hidden gem. Since I was there for the press conference, I only had time to look at part of one of the three floors the company has.

The press conference itself wasn’t anything all that special. Mayor DeStefano talked a little bit about the history of New Haven with its port and railroads which fueled the growth of the city. He noted that high speed internet is our generation’s version of ports and railroads and he hoped that Google would choose New Haven as a test bed and that the infrastructure would help lift New Haven out of recession. He noted the importance of the initiative being led by people from the community and embraced by businesses, instead of being a project led primarily by the city.

Andre Yap, Founder and CEO of Ripple 100 also spoke about his hopes that Google would choose New Haven and bring considerable collateral growth. Kerry Triffin, owner of Fair Haven Furniture expressed similar thoughts and spoke with many of the guests who were discovering his business for the first time.

Giulia Gambale Gouge brought cupcakes from Claire’s Corner Copia. The GoogleHaven cupcakes were from suggestions that had been made online for cupcake frostings. Giulia had been working with Claire to help her make better use of social media, and the cupcakes illustrated the value that companies can gain by entering into conversations with their customers on social media.

While I’ve been concerned about what happens to all the energy around GoogleHaven if Google doesn’t select New Haven, I was pleased to see some concrete benefits to New Haven from the Google Haven effort. Businesses and other organizations are working together to increase public involvement in all aspects of New Haven’s social fiber. If that social fiber can ride on top of a high speed fiber network from Google, so much the better.

The Google Haven effort began by citizens stepping forward to help make New Haven better. The city joined the effort and gave it a great boost. Now, we are starting to see some of the benefits of this effort, and are eagerly hoping that Google will join with the effort to give it an even greater boost.

Why Have A Website?

It may seem like a strange question to come from someone who creates websites, but I believe the question, “Why have a website?” is perhaps the most important are least frequently asked question by people setting up websites. The answer to that question is crucial in understanding what software should be used to support a website, what the website should look like, how it should be promoted, whether or not a website is really needed, and a host of other decisions.

#ff @SMCNewHaven #cttu

@AmyDesmarais @shesosocial @Malafronte @suzicraig @EnzaDandeneau @sbc111 @cdschein @cellularchloe @theMattCrouch @yougottacall

It has been a while since I did a Follow Friday post, but yesterday was a busy social media day, so I thought I would highlight some of the meetings and who I ran into.

The first meeting was Social Media Club, New Haven. @AmyDesmarais of Ripple100 was there, as was Giulia Gambale Gouge of SheSoSocial. We talked a little bit about how the Social Media Club of New Haven could interact with groups like the Connecticut Tweetcrawl and the planning of the Connecticut Podcamp. However, much of the discussion focused on Best Buddies of Connecticut and what the Social Media club could do for them.

I also met Paul Malafronte. Paul does a lot of Joomla work and I do a lot of Drupal work. I’ve been looking for a Joomla expert to handle requests that I sometimes get and cannot handle, and I ended up referring a request I receive to him today.

The second stop of the day was the CT Tweet Crawl. I’ve been to various Tweet Crawls in the past, so it was great to see some old friends. I had a good talk with @SuziCraig about Drupal and Google Maps. @sbc111 also joined in on the discussion. I also spoke a bit with @EnzaDandeneau. Enza is a realtor from Marlborough, where the Tweetup was. She brought in people from the Marlborough Business Association to help them understand how social media could help their businesses. I don’t know how much additional business the Tweet Crawlers brought to the Marlborough Tavern, but there were a bunch of us there for drinks.

I had a few other good discussions, and wanted to particularly shout out to @cdschein @cellularchloe @theMattCrouch @yougottacall. It was a good day for social media networking and I look forward to upcoming Social Media Club of New Haven meetings and CT Tweet Crawls.

You are What You Eat; the Cortisol Addiction

I’ve always thought of the adage “you are what you eat” in terms of physical food and the shape of our physical body. If we eat healthy food we are more likely to have a healthy body. If we eat junk… Yet it seems as if there may be much more to the old phrase than that. What about our media diet? How does it affect who we are as people? How does it affect us physically? I’m beginning to think that it may be much more substantial than many think.

A couple years ago, I went to a group psychotherapy conference where a keynote speaker said something to the effect of, “The self exists at the intersection of our internal neural network and our external social networks.” As a person fascinated by both neural networks and social networks, I really liked this idea and I’ve thought about how what is going on in our social networks affects our internal neural networks.

On a mailing list recently, a good friend talked about hearing Andrew Weil speak at “The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference”. He suggested that to maintain one’s health one should stay away from the news. This brought an interesting response where one person responded quoting Pastor Martin Niemoller, “They came first for the communists…” We need to pay attention to the news, lest there be no one paying attention to the news when they come for us.

Yet what should we be paying attention to? In this world of constant partial attention on our social networks, of advertisers trying to grab our attention, perhaps even to repeat their message and help it go viral, it becomes harder to find what we really need to hear. This is perhaps most pronounced in the political entertainment industry with commentators breathlessly talking about what we need to fear in politics.

Fear has always been a great selling tool, whether it is fear that our smile won’t be bright enough and we won’t have any friends or fear that someone is going take what we cherish most, whether it be our guns, our right to make our own choices over our bodies, or something harder to nail down, like ‘freedom’.

Fear and the stress it produces can cause our bodies to produce cortisol, “the stress hormone”. Cortisol, in proper amounts is beneficial and can help blood pressure, memory, immune functioning and so on. Yet too much cortisol increases blood pressure and screws up our metabolism.

In the fight for attention, news organizations, advertisers, and perhaps even our friends on our social networks, feed our cortisol addiction in an effort to gain attention in this increasingly competitive attention economy. This is just not good for us. So, what do we do about it?

Cortisol is useful in a fight or flight situation. We need to find ways to get our cortisol in real fight or flight situations where we can act on the situation and then let it go. Even on American Idol, the fight or flight situation when our favorite star is chastised by the judges provides an opportunity to respond. Text your votes to… News reports that have suggestions about contacting elected officials provide an opportunity to respond. Yet neither example wants you to let it go afterwards. You need to stay tuned to keep your cortisol up.

There have also been discussions about blogs and anonymous comments on online newspaper articles. Much of what goes on there also seems to be feeding a cortisol addiction without any meaningful opportunities to do anything other than call our opponents Nazis, Socialists, or Communists.

Likewise, it seems that so much of prime time television is about feeding our cortisol addiction. Do you get your cortisol rush from Lost or 24? Is it good for you?

So to the mailing list discussion, I suggested that we need to think globally and act locally. We need to listen for news that we can do something about and then we need to act locally and move on. Beyond that, perhaps we need more opportunities to de-stress, to try and lower our cortisol levels and our addiction to cortisol.

What do you think? Does this make sense to you? What affects your cortisol levels, both for better and for worse?

Update: A friend on Facebook commented about this pointing to a very interesting podcast about what's happening in our brains during times of stress. For more information, check out Yale Stress Center. More food for thought...

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