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Online Anniversaries

Last Thursday, September 22nd, I received a message from Foursquare letting me know that it was my second anniversary on their site. It was while I was at the Digiday conference on Social Media and that seemed somehow appropriate.

Last year, PodcampCT took place on the 4th anniversary of me being on Twitter, October 16th. This year, I will be in Rochester, MN on the day before a conference on Social Media and Healthcare starts on the 16th.

On Facebook, I installed Timeline last week, only to be told that today, September 26th, is my fifth anniversary on their site. Friends have expressed surprise that I've only been on Facebook for five years, but I point out that it was about five years ago that they finally opened up Facebook to people with email addresses other than at schools.

With all of this, I started looking around for other online firsts for myself that I could find. The earliest I could find was a Usenet post I put up on July 11, 1982. According to Lambda, I joined their MOO on 12/30/1994. On Jan 23, 2002, I joined Ecademy and the earliest blog post I can find there is from 8/21/2002.

Also 2002 is the earliest post I have on Livejournal, dating March 13, 2002. It was based on a discussion I had had on a different MOO.

Over on the political blogs, the earliest post I find on DailyKos was November 10, 2003. This is followed by a post on Greater Democracy on December 10, 2003. I suspect there are a bunch of other posts from that era that I can't find, which is partly prompted me to create Orient Lodge in 2004 as a repository for some of my writing.

There are plenty of other online anniversaries, but at least right now, these are probably the most significant.

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New York

New York

It has been a long time since I've been in New York City and so much has changed since my last visit that it feels new and strange, while at the same time feeling very familiar. Perhaps it is like T.S. Eliot talks about in the Four Quartets about returning to where I started and approaching it as new, but not quite like Robert Pirzig as he set out on his motorcycle to re-encounter ghosts from his past.

Yet the guide book that feels most applicable, and one that I have in my satchel, is Thoreau's Cape Cod, so perhaps I shall write from a frame closer to his.

I embarked out of Milford on a warm grey morning. The humid air had an almost tropic feel to it, like it did shortly before Hurricane Irene hit, but it was not to be a stormy day. The train was part of the new fleet. It was all bright, clean, and shiny. The stainless shell fixtures were stylishly curved and there were power outlets for each row of seats. The train was packed so I sat next to a young woman traveling from New Haven into New York. I would have to reach past her to use the power outlets, but my devices were well charged so I ran off of the batteries.

I checked assorted messages on my cellphones and did a little writing on the laptop I was carrying; a MacBook Pro, provided by work, primarily for video editing but also for times when I travel and need a laptop.

The young woman was reading a copy of Nathaniel Hawthorne's The Scarlet Letter. She had a small star on the back of each of her hands between her thumb and index finger, and a tattoo on her right wrist of a rubber duckie. Her eyelashes were darkened with mascara and there was glitter around her eyes. The curve of the black eyelashes set against the glitter looked like a stylized teardrop.

I disembarked from the train in Grand Central Terminal. It was a familiar old venue with the constellations on the ceiling, the clock where I've often met friends, the escalators, ticket booths, and commuters scurrying to their destination. They were the extras that have been appearing in The Daily Commute since I first started commuting into New York over two decades ago.

It was when I exited Grand Central Terminal that I really noticed the differences. A decade or two ago, I was one of these businessmen, thinking about calculations of asset values. I have long since discarded the business suit, but I remembered those days. Was I less observant of the people around me in those days, as I was caught up in my career, or is it simply the passage of time that has erased the details of the characters I daily walked passed? I'm not sure. Perhaps it is some of both, because even as I write this later in the day, memories of the people around me have faded.

Yet one thing that does stay with me is the sense of Walt Whitman as he crossed Brooklyn Ferry and reflected on his fellow travelers. How curious they are to me. As I crossed one of the major avenues, I found myself behind two impeccably dressed young men, one black, one hispanic, both carrying white mannikins wrapped in plastic. They maneuvered their cargo past the stainless steel coffee cart on the sidewalk, surrounded by construction workers who looked on at the comings and goings of the city showing no interest in the men with their mannikins.

Soon, an older hispanic looking man, carrying a platter of pastries and a carafe of coffee passed me heading the other direction. As I approached Time Square the businessmen and the secretaries heading off to work decreased and the number of folks from out of town, looking at the sights increased.

Years ago, when I had lived if rougher parts of New York, I had learned not to make eye contact with the people on the street. Yet I was curious. What were the stories off all these people? What would they write on their Facebook walls when they got their chance? I wished I could read some of their status updates, but I knew that would not be. Instead, I entered the Marriott Marquis where a conference on social media was about to begin. My compatriots for the day would be from publishing, advertising, agencies and brands, exploring how to exploit social media to get their message out, and not the writers and thinkers that had accompanied me in my mind in my trip to New York, Thoreau, Eliot, and Whitman.

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The Long Day of a Sort of Single Dad

This morning, I got up at 5 AM so I could go to a Chamber of Commerce breakfast. I was going to help Middnight on Main, a First Night in Middletown, CT. I set up QR codes, took credit card payments via the Square App on an Android, passed out cards and said hello to some old friends, like Connecticut Comptroller Kevin Lembo and Congressman Joe Courtney. With that, I got into the office later than I usually do on a Monday with a stack of things piled up to address.

Meanwhile, my wife Kim was at home with our nine year old daughter and packing for a business trip. Our daughter Fiona is fighting the early back to school cold. When Kim left for the her trip, Fiona went over to a neighbor’s house and I picked her up after work. We had a light dinner as Fiona watched some TV and played on the computer.

I did a little bit on my computer, visiting a few blogs, less than I normally do, chatting with a relative about making hard cider, participating in social media, and watching my stock move sideways in Empire Avenue.

I did a little more laundry, and a little more cleaning around the house. Now, it is time for Fiona to head off to bed, and I shall follow suit soon afterwards. Tomorrow, Kim will still be on her trip and I’ll be adjusting my depending on the health of Fiona.

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At the Shore

The lone pink flip flop
Sits on the warm sand
‘midst the stick and shells
And little bits of broken plastic
Coughed up by the passing
Autumnal storm

September 17, 2011. Kim, Fiona, Wesley and I went to Hammonasset State Park. While it had been cold in the morning at our house, the afternoon was quite pleasant and the water and sand warm.

I took Wesley for a walk up the beach. Along the way, I saw a lone pink flip flop lying on the sand surrounded by other material that had I assume had been washed ashore during Hurricane Irene. It was small and most likely had belonged to a young girl. I wondered if the young girl had cried when she lost her flip flop. I thought of it in terms of part of a pair that had lost its mate and I thought of T. Francis Stanton and the mourning of his widow.

I wondered if after years of being tossed about, the lone pink flip flop would break down into little bits of broken plastic like some of the other flotsam tossed ashore, or if through the marvels of plastic, we had created an eternal memorial to childhood on a summer beach.

Yet here we were, a few weeks after Labor day, the cultural start of fall and a few days before the equinox. The first big autumnal storm had passed through and the beach season was all but over. How many more storms would we see before winter, and was this, too, a parallel to the passing of life.

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Remembering a Great Irishman, RIP T. Francis Stanton

I grew up in a small town with a volunteer fire department. I remember hearing the fire horn blast through out the town, in various patterns, and checking the piece of cardboard that hung in the hallway which explained the sequence of blasts used to describe where the fire was. I loved going to firemen’s musters, and even today, I live in a town with a volunteer fire department.

I grew up in an Irish family. As best as I can tell, my great great grandfather, John Hynes, showed up in Boston around the time of the great potato famine. He married a girl from an old New England family, and by the time I came around, there weren’t many Irish traditions being passed on.

I think of this as I remember the father of a good friend from college, T. Francis Stanton, who passed away this week. He was a retired Cleveland firefighter and an Irishman through and through. He had the gift of gab that went beyond anything you could get from kissing the Blarney stone and was always up for a practical joke. My friend Marty would often recount stories of some of his antics.

For example, there is the story of when some Jehovah’s Witnesses came to the door. T.Francis went to the door, talked to them for a few minutes and excused himself saying he had something to attend to and that they should come back in half an hour. Sure enough, half an hour later, the Jehovah’s Witnesses returned, eager to make a convert, and T. Francis welcomed them. When they made a comment about having come back, T. Francis appeared confused. He played that up for a little bit, and finally said, “Oh, you must have been speaking with my identical twin brother”. They were amazed at how much T. Francis looked like his twin brother and he regaled them with stories about times when the two of them had been confused and then sent them on their way. Of course, T. Francis didn’t have an identical twin brother and the family watched from another room and snickered.

As with any good Irish story, it’s probably changed a bit from what happened as my friend Marty told it to me and then through me recounting it here, but that’s part of what makes good Irish stories good.

Marty and I were roommates in New York City soon after college, and with Marty, I went to visit T. Francis’ brother who had become a monk at the Trappist Monastery in Kentucky. T. Francis’ other brother Jim, a successful businessman, would come to New York sometimes and Marty and I would meet him at some fancy restaurant. Thinking about the three of them, it almost sounds like a set up for another T. Francis story, Three Irishmen walk into a bar, a firefighter, a monk, and a business man. It makes me think of one of my favorite Irish jokes that I learned from Marty, Three Irishmen walk out of a bar….

My Irish great great grandfather married a woman of proper New England upbringing, and from that proper New England mindset, it feels perhaps a little bit inappropriate to be telling jokes about drinking as part of remembering a great man who has passed. However, I still have enough of my Irish ancestry, revitalized through my friendship with Marty to believe that instead of being all prim and proper, the best way to remember his dad is to jovially tell some stories, and when Marty and I see each other again, to hoist a pint in the memory of a great Irishman.

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