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A cat on your head
Submitted by Aldon Hynes on Sat, 04/21/2007 - 11:40I spend a lot of time surfing a wide variety of blogs. Blog Explosion provides an endless stream of blogs to view, For every two blogs you visit, they send someone back to visit your blog.
My Blog Log provides a list of bloggers who have visited your site. You can see it in my right hand column, the five most recent visitors. I like to visit the sites of people who have come to my site. Usually, they have a MyBlogLog widget on their site, and I follow the links to those sites.
I’ve also been playing a bit with Twitter and have found new blogs through there. All of these sources provide a very interesting contrast to the political blogosphere ghetto that I spend so much time in.
You see, a lot of political bloggers go to the A-list political blogs. Maybe they branch out and visit some of the regional political blogs. Yet, for me, some of the most important political blogs are blogs about daily life. They have entries by a wife talking about her husband cooking a great hot dog. They talk about a family going boating together and talking about knitting and photography. They talk about gardening, and the first bursts of spring.
A couple blogs have jumped out at me in particular. Living with Alzhiemers. The posts there are infrequent. They are written by a guy named Joe.
I have not posted is ome time now. I keep forgetting two. One of my dearest friends recently losst her farther and I forgot to send her my sympathies. I stop one of my meds and that was a big mistake, thoought I was dying, but apparently God nor the Devil want me at this time. Life is geetting a little more confusing and frustrating for me, I don't even answer my emails the way I used to.
In another entry he talks about working around the house:
It took me over 3 hours to put a new facet in the kitchen yesterday, had to rest betwwen steps and went off and did other things and forgot what I was doing, but alll ened well, no leaks, what a suprise.
You want to talk about healthcare? You want to talk about stem cell research? Start with this wonderful blog. I remember going with Kim to visit her grandfather as the Alzheimer’s slowly took him away. I remember the concern about him going on walks and getting lost, about him going down into the basement to work on the furnace or the electrical system, and how these things led the family to find a home where he could be cared for twenty four hours a day. Kim’s grandfather was also named Joe, so these blog entries jump out at me.
Then there is Girl Punch. She talks a little bit about who she is here. She has this to say about Imus, and this to say about Virginia Tech. If you want to talk about media reform, Iraq, or Virginia Tech, Girl Punch is a great place to start.
To tie things altogether, Jaya writes about my recent blog post talking about “our capacity for evil”.
“When people say they can't understand how someone could go on a killing spree, I find myself pausing and thinking, not without revulsion, that I DO understand. Then I wonder for a moment if I'm somehow monstrous to have that understanding. I think not. I think I am simply one who has looked at some of the darker, uglier, and less acceptable aspects of my self, and they have looked back at me, and we've nodded at each other in silent recognition.”
She sums it all up with
“Or, put another way, as a friend once said to me, it's hard to be angry when there is a cat on your head.”
If you want to talk about leadership, let’s spend our time exploring what Jaya has to say and focus on cats on peoples heads, and not how much they pay for haircuts.
Confession
Submitted by Aldon Hynes on Fri, 04/20/2007 - 10:11Today, I will wear an orange and maroon ribbon as part orange and maroon effect day. I’ve even changed the theme of my site to orange and maroon for the day. We are all finding ways to process this event in our own manner. Some of us have deep felt grief of our own. Others have strong empathy for those most closely tied to the event and their grief.
orange and maroon effect day
Submitted by Aldon Hynes on Thu, 04/19/2007 - 20:05Yesterday, I was reading Are We There Yet?and found out that Friday is Orange and Maroon Effect Day. I commented there about my lack of orange and maroon outfits. Kim jumped in and said that to make up for the lack of orange and maroon clothes, she would go to the crafts store and get orange and maroon ribbons.
We have spent the afternoon putting together orange and maroon ribbons that we will hand out at the JJB dinner Friday evening.
I then went out to find out who else is doing what with orange and maroon effect day. New MexiKen, Salon and Gather, even Microsoft and Free Republic are talking about it.
So, please, wear orange and maroon tomorrow. If you’re going to the JJB dinner, look for Kim and I and we’ll be handing out orange and maroon ribbons.
Visual DNA
Submitted by Aldon Hynes on Wed, 04/18/2007 - 21:24
One of the interesting new social networks and widget tools.
Bloggers as group-psychotherapists
Submitted by Aldon Hynes on Mon, 04/16/2007 - 22:01I’m feeling a bit fragile right now. My eldest daughter goes to college in Virginia. My second daughter will be a freshman at the same college in Virginia in the fall. I know what it is like to have a loved one far away and to worry about them. It is compounded by complications for me at work and at home.
As I tried to work today, I came back to the news. I saw people talking about it on Twitter. I read emails about it on various mailing lists. One pointed me to Psychological First Aid and to Group Psychological First Aid.
Over on John Edwards’ blog, Elizabeth Edwards wrote a wonderful post about Courage and Peace and Mercy and some of my thoughts came together. I like to talk a lot about community; how it takes place on line, its role in politics. It is times like these that we need to pull together as a community. It is times like these that we can pull together and show a little kindness, through communities of bloggers and emailers and online chatters and any and every other way we can reach out to one another.
If you blog, if you send emails, if you touch other people who may be far away from Virginia Tech, but who are related in one way or another, take a moment. Read the Psychological First Aid paper. Don’t try to be a psychologist (unless you are so trained), but think about what you can do to contact and engage people around you in a in a non-intrusive, compassionate, and helpful manner. Think about how you can provide emotional comfort and calmness.
You know, it’s probably a good way to interact with people all the time, and not simply in times of crisis.